After doing some research I came to know about the third largest mental health problem in the world today and I am sure most of us can relate to it. Yeah, you may have guessed it right, it is 'Social Anxiety'. Imagine you are in a party and somebody came to offer you a drink. Now, you start to feel nervous when it comes to picking up the glass because you are afraid of spilling your drink or suppose your hands start to shake and you start to feel embarrassing in front of others. Normally people also tend to avoid stating their opinion and go along with what others say even if they don't like to. If these things are a part of your life you might be another victim of Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD)!
This isn't something serious to be cured by medicines or therapies, all it needs is your efforts and time to get things back in order. So, it is something like an irritating or obnoxious person which is sucking out self-confidence from your life. You are worried about what others are thinking about you and your behavior as well as actions.
This somehow inculcates embarrassment in your mind and gradually stops you from taking actions. You become unable to speak your mind and left things undone most of the times due to lack of self- confidence which gets overshadowed by self-consciousness.
Let's see how to overcome this self-consciousness by finding the solution
It is your perception that creates a state of mind and you could easily keep an eye on it by instilling a few habits which will help you to change your look outwards. Here are few tips to shift your perception and make yourself less self-conscious and more confident.
The Pattern
You need to identify yourself with the pattern that's making you more self-conscious. When do you tend to get more self-conscious? Your hairstyle, dressing sense, standing posture, intellectual abilities, etc. Try to be a little more introspective and you will find your self-conscious moments.
Your Spotlight Illusion
To be honest nobody cares. it tends to come off as a bit harsh, but this is the truth. Realize this fact the moment you feel your higher self-conscious moment on how you look or how your actions might be perceived by someone. Just because someone is looking at you does not mean that he is thinking and analyzing you because they have got more work to do.
So, realizing the fact that nobody cares will make you feel comfortable, less-embarrassed and more confident. So, just relax and understand that not everyone is thinking about you or how you look. When this spotlight illusion is lifted up, you get to reality.
Turn down the Spotlight
It might have happened that someone was trying to turn the spotlight towards you and in a moment of self-consciousness you did something embarrassing. You need to stay calm and take the action gracefully instead of reacting emotionally. Stop making it about 'me-me' and half of your self-consciousness issues will fade away rapidly.
Manage your reactions
Being emotional is sometimes perceived as a weakness by people who are only capable of giving sympathies. So, try to remain calm and keep your emotions in control when you are around these people. Don't try to be the center of attraction by letting your emotions out of your control and being embarrassed later for what you've done. Be happy the way you are and realize that nobody's perfect, that alone would be enough to manage your thoughts from getting derailed by emotions.
Laugh at yourself
Yeah, you can make fun of yourself or chuckle at your actions and that would definitely help you reduce your embarrassment and feel less self-conscious. But make sure you do not do it in a self-depreciating way, instead you can take some bright or hypothetical side of the event, make a good line about it and have a little chuckle. You have to realize that nobody is perfect, not even you and you're happy the way you are.
Observe
I didn't realize until this time that actors get the highest spotlight and these people should be more self-conscious rather than us. But these are the people who do not bother about their appearances when in public, apart from when at parties or functions.
Watch them closely and observe how they behave off-screen and learn from them. Not only actors, you can also learn by watching someone whose self-confidence you truly appreciate.
Also try to keep yourself at a distance from negative people because they are the vermin who is sucking out self-confidence from you. Some relationships are not worth putting efforts if they can only derail your mental strength and makes you feel self-conscious.
So, what is your problem about self-consciousness and how do you decide to solve them? Comment down below and share your experience. If you find this blog useful, pass it along to others.
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